The only person you can legally hit in the United States is a child.
Hit your partner, and you’ll be arrested for domestic violence. Hit another adult, and you’ll be arrested for assault. But hit a 4-year-old, and you can call yourself a “loving father”. That’s completely screwed up.
It should be against the law for a fully grown adult to slap, hit, spank, punch, switch, whoop, whip, paddle, kick or belt a defenseless child in the name of discipline. But it is legal, and new research in the Journal of Family Psychology suggests that the average 4-year-old is hit 936 times a year.
If study after study conclusively proves that hitting your kids doesn’t work as a disciplinary method, and worse, it has long-term damaging impact to their psychology and makes your kids more aggressive, why do we as a society allow it?"
- Stop using the “o” words to describe fat people. The O words “obese” and “overweight” are clinical terms that reinforce the idea that human bodies should all fall into a narrow range of weight in order to be considered healthy. This is problematic on many levels.
- Stop using the word “fit” as a description for a thin body type. Fit simply means “in good health”. Using the word fit to describe thin people implies two things: that all thin people are in good health, and that those without that body type are in bad health. Fit is not a body size, it is a state of health. And those who are fat can be fit just as those who are thin can be unfit.
- Stop using the word fat as an insult. It is not ok to use my body type as an insult. Fat is simply a word to describe a body type. It does not mean ugly, unhealthy, lazy, gross, unintelligent, (enter in all the other disgusting words that our fat phobic society likes to link with the word fat), etc. Even saying things like “big fat jerk” “big fat ____” as an insult links the word fat with that insult. Again, not cool. Stop doing it.
- Stop assuming you know someone’s health, eating habits, exercise habits, and life based on their body size (this includes fat and thin people alike). Thin people shouldn’t be assumed to be anorexic and fat people shouldn’t be assumed to eat massive quantities of food. Thin people shouldn’t be assumed to exercise all the time, only eat “rabbit food”, and have severe and disciplined lives. Fat people shouldn’t be assumed to never exercise, only eat junk food, and have lazy and undisciplined lives. Don’t assume you know anything about a person based on their body size. The only thing you can tell by looking at a thin person is that they are thin. The only thing you can tell by looking at a fat person is that they are fat.
- Stop assuming that fat people would rather be thin. There are many fat people who absolutely love their bodies (I am one of them) and wouldn’t change it if given the choice. Assuming that a fat person would rather be thin says a lot about your warped perception of thinness and is highly insulting to the fat people who do love their fat bodies.
- Stop complimenting people on their “weight loss”. This is problematic for many reasons. The most obvious is the assumption that weight loss is always a good thing. As well is the assumption that a thin body type is better than any other body type. There are other problems with complimenting weight loss that I won’t get into at this point.
- Realize that a healthy body isn’t required for someone to be treated with human dignity and respect. All people have a right to respect and to be treated like a human being. Everyone has a right to be treated with dignity regardless of their body size or their health. You have no right to shame someone based on your ideal of health. And it doesn’t matter if someone is doing something that YOU feel is not healthy, if it’s an adult and if it’s their body, then it’s their business and their business alone. Again, someone else’s health is not your business.
(It is nearly 2 am and I’m on cold meds as I write this, so if I get anything wrong or left things out (likely) then please feel free to correct me or add things that are important in the Fat Acceptance movement.)
Firstly I’d say stop erasing the other identities fat people have-which are as varied as any other size. Stop treating fat acceptance as if its purely a white hetereo thing.
Undermining fat people’s autonomy, sentience or dignity undermines all people’s.
As for the ‘o’ words, they define-humanness as slimness, and more than that =slimness plus, rather than a different size. It’s like the difference between defining women as failed men or people in their own right. [there’s a tendency among the fatphobic establishment to change terms whilst keeping that underlying meaning.
Deciding people’s habits on the basis of size comes from the idea that your size is purely a consequence of calories in/calories out. If you support that, no matter your weight, you are supporting that judgement on yourself and others.
Also, listen to fat people, they’ve listened to you, even when it went against them. If you refuse to and think you know better, the consequences are on you, not fat people.
Fat people owe you nothing. Fat people cost you nothing. Fatness is not a cost.
Fat acceptance is ultimately self rescue and not aimed at “educating” slim people. Slim people know full well that fat people are fully human, their decision to act otherwise is their own.
#1. Never be seen eating in public.
#2. If you must eat, make sure it is uber-healthy yet tasteless. Never eat anything that is fattening, sweet, or tasty in any way.
#3. Exercise daily to the point of vomiting. This cannot be fun exercise like dancing or skating (who wants to…
BOOM CODED LANGUAGE DESTROYED IN FIVE SECONDS
The Disney Channel of my childhood
I loved this movie growing up
But did they actually say “nigger” on Disney Channel because I really don’t remember this
This movie was so dope though
Trust me, they really said nigger because it was on just a few years ago and my ass was shocked
Y’all remember how her dad went OFF ‘cause he thought the white girl called her kaffir?
remember when you could actually have serious conversations in media targeting kids?
DVRK PARTY PT1
"i always hated that there were no models that looked like me , then it hit me . I look like me " - Snap
Styled by @kidnapsnap
Graphic design and photography by fatleopard
Makeup by Chiamaka Ekweghariri
MORE ON FOREVERFATLEOPARD.COM
thefunky--buddha said: Have you ever read the diagnostic criteria for anorexia? "Used by the DSM-V as an indicator of the level of severity of anorexia nervosa. The DSM-V states these as follows: Mild: BMI of 17-17.99 Moderate: BMI of 16-16.99 Severe: BMI of 15-15.99 Extreme: BMI of less than 15" I fully acknowledge that people can have anorexic tendencies/ disordered eating habits and still be overweight (I myself have) but anorexia is classified as extreme weight loss. Please don't be encouraging obese people to
[continued - diagnose themselves with Anorexia. That’s so dangerous and so so insulting for people struggling or recovering from anorexia]
People forget that the DSM was created by PEOPLE through what they have constructed as a disease and is only a guideline to follow to get a diagnosis. It isn’t something that should be followed to the letter or used to exclude people, especially if you are considering that much of our medical knowledge is socially constructed. In our society we believe fat people shouldn’t be fat so they haven’t acknowledged that fat people can have an eating disorder let alone anorexia due to the belief fat people should lose weight no matter what.
The guidelines wouldn’t even fit MOST thin people who have anorexia as everyone doesn’t fall into the weight range needed for the diagnosis if someone were to follow the DSM completely. Also, the weight range the DSM mentions is only ONE part of many that form a diagnosis. People can die before they get to that weight range or lose their menses. The physical damage done to people’s bodies can happen at any stage, particularly damage to the heart when someone isn’t getting the right amount of calories or nutrients. That has NOTHING to do with the amount of subcutaneous fat someone has.
What’s insulting are people who need to call us “obese” and feel so threatened by fat people acknowledging they too have disordered eating and have the same symptoms as thin people who are anorexic. We’re not taking anything away from anyone else with that diagnosis except challenging the narratives and language around anorexia. The very use of the word “normal” when describing what weight range people should be in ”85% of normal” needs to be deconstructed. Who’s normal? Is it “normal” on a BMI chart? Is it normal based on the individual? I’m 250 pounds. If I lost 25% of my body weight by starving I would still be considered “obese” and doctors would look it over as a positive thing. Instead of what it actually was, a massive weight loss that would be categorized as anorexia if my body type was included in the construction of how things like the DSM give guidelines for a diagnosis.
So anyone who finds it insulting that people with mental and physical health problems are attempting to get their issues fixed needs to find something else to complain about. Everyone has the right to good medical care and to not have their problems be brushed off as positive. Doesn’t matter what weight they are.
Oh and to answer your original question, yes. I’ve not only read the DSM but I’ve taken graduate level coursework that deconstructs and challenges the very basis of how they diagnose conditions. The DSM is regularly challenged by researchers and doctors as it is only a guideline (and again is socially constructed).
Instead of asking us why we make a thing out of being proud, try asking yourself why you think we should be ashamed.
- “Appeals to fairness have proven surprisingly uncompelling to most people when it comes to fat rights.”—
The appeal to fairness and equity is of course...
Just because someone doesn’t believe you when you tell them they are beautiful, doesn’t mean you should stop bothering to...